Poetic Rants

for all the GOOD ASS MOMS… with a not so good ass past… this is for US…

I don’t even know where to start without sounding like I am ready to lead a revolution of tired, frustrated, overworked, and ESPECIALLY under-appreciated “not so ideal” mothers. But this needs to be said… so maybe I am?

 

I am tired… but not of my children, not today… today… my kids are perfect and I have no complaints.

Today on Mother’s Day, I spent it with my children capturing their personalities and thinking of all the shit I have had to deal with being their “not so ideal” mother… Being a mom today means something different than it did when my mother was raising me. Just as society is hard on everything that goes against the grain… society shames the FUCK out of a single mom. Let me be clear of what I mean by single. In my mind a single mother is someone who has a child… or children and she is not with their father, nor is she married. She may have a “boyfriend”, she may even live with him but those are HER kids. She soley cares for them, deals with their illnesses and their insecurities. It does not matter what is happening good or bad in her life because her LIFE is her child or children and their entire life is in her hands. Seems about right to all of you? You scroll down your feed on any given platform and you are seeing more mothers with their blessings… alone.


If that isn’t depressing enough… there is the shame. So much fucking shame. Shame if you keep having kids without being married with the same guy, shame if you have them with another person. Just fucking shame… and I have a word for you shamers…. FUCK YOU… ideal is DEAD.. so your shame needs to die too…

NOW.. before I go into this rant… like you all KNOW I LOVE TO DOOOO 🙂

Allow me to humble myself… (opens closet of skeletons…) I am NOT a perfect mother… Sometimes i AM too tired to “mom”. There are days that I spend fussing and bitching… and there needs to be more hugging and kissing. My kids don’t know all the nursery rhymes… they are smart as hell but they also can sing “Fake Love” by Drake like nobodies business! There are times when I KNOW I should have been more present at home…
At times… I REALLY questioned what I did to get treated so poorly for so many years by my sons father… I have personally blamed myself so many times for his absence… a smarter, wiser me knows that this is not the case… but knowing it isn’t my fault his dad is a pussy and won’t step up and be a father to his son… it doesn’t stop my son from crying, or having outbursts. I can’t heal him and I hate it, so I blame me. These are things that us mothers battle with. And whenever we try to express our hurt… we have to hear “well, thats why you should have waited till you were married….” or “Can’t be too mad at him.. you picked him” and my personal favorite is “You two need to have a real long talk… and come to an agreement”… right… that’s exactly what we should do!! in almost 10 years… we NEVER talked about him being in his sons life **SARCASM**… Maybe I should call him? Let’s see…… shit….. he changed his number… or blocked me from calling… damn…. oh well… I am only the MOTHER OF YOUR KID… why would I need to call??? **CASE AND POINT**… and now to end this part of the rant… I am in a GREAT relationship… Dion is phenomenal with my children… I plan be with that man until I die… but I still fear that I will fuck it up… and my kids (mostly my son…my daughters dad is 100% in her life) will lose ANOTHER dad…

And here is a perfect place…. to start… *CLEARS THROAT*

Fuck you if you ever shamed a mother for her kids having different dads…

Because I would’ve been a BIGGER idiot if I had my daughter by the asshole I had my son by… that ship was sailed the moment I found out I was pregnant… I didn’t MEAN to get pregnant by that idiot… (if you have questions… read Dom the imperfect Mom…).. if I would’ve gotten pregnant for the sake of my kids being whole siblings… I would’ve been shamed for that too…

Fuck you if you ever shamed a woman for HAVING HER BABY… though her situation wasn’t “ideal”

Oooooh man, this makes me hot on rim of my asshole… explain this to me… HOW IN THE FUCK IS A WOMAN WHO DECIDED TO KEEP HER CHILD RECEIVING MORE SHAME THEN THE ASSHOLE WHO LEFT HER ALONE TO RAISE HER CHILD? Just shame her into having an abortion… then turn around and shame her having it. Fuck you for that…

Fuck you if you EVER told me (or ANY mother like me) I don’t spend enough time with my kids…

My entire life is dedicated to my children… I know I am NOT the only woman who felt shamed for wanting a damn BREAK…I call that time “the time you should have been with your dad”… I will NEVER feel guilty for that… I will just feel blessed and HIGHLY favored for those breaks…

FUCK YOU if you are a woman bragging about not having children if you are saying it to shame a woman who does….

Why does this even need to be said? Women as a whole need to stop shaming women… hating ass bitches…

SUPER DUPER fuck you if you are shaming “baby mamas” if the reason you aren’t one…. Is because you killed it… or in some of your cases… THEM…

Yea… I said it… bitch, no apologies.. (VERY passionate about this) I KEPT MINE. And don’t talk about my choices if yours are off limits.
Last… but certainly not least….

Fuck you if you think you can tell me about what came out of MY vagina…

I don’t coddle my kids… at all. Not my almost 3 year old… and certainly not my almost 9 year old. This is a very VERY controversial topic between mothers… I hear all the time about how moms should be soft and EXPLAIN to their kids… and softly tell them how they are wrong… NO… and for one reason alone… I will not have entitled, stuck up, needy, WEAK children. I understand that there is a limit, and I don’t surpass that limit. But my children will not think it’s okay to be a little asshole in life, or think that they should only get TALKED TO… no way… FUCK THAT…

if we were able to pick our punishments as adults, or if we were told that there was a “limit” to how “mean” someone will be with us, would there even be a law? NO. When you get pulled over for doing something illegal in the road… do the cops coddle your ass? NO. The real world is TOUGH… therefore I AM TOUGH… but it’s because I love them with everything in me… and I need them to be able to handle the world and it not handle them… I am raising a young man… some days I have to be his DAD… straight up… I have to show him the evils of this world… so he doesn’t get shot the fuck up or end up in a damn jail cell… Don’t tell me how to handle mine… but not be here to help raise them…

So to all my mama’s, mommy’s, ma’s and mom’s… as Mother’s Day 2017 comes to a BEAUTIFUL end…. remember to stand tall in this world and fall for NOTHING.. We deal with the heat from people who couldn’t BEGIN to walk a kilometer in your pumps, honey.


Take that break, scold how you see fit, love that little cute ass kid you birthed… and FUCK what anyone has to say… at the end of the day it is YOU and YOURS…. when everything falls apart… all people want to do is sit back and watch… ALLOW THEM TO DO THE SAME IN YOUR COME UP!

 

Goodnight 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

18 comments

  1. I could tell you were feeling this one! I do too. Single mom, abusive ex, wonderful step-dad for almost 16 years. Shout it from the roof tops. Single moms have one of the toughest jobs, no matter what circumstances brought us here ❤

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    1. Thank you! And I hope that my kids can get that much time in! 16 years! Gorgeous ❤️. And yes Mother’s Day felt like the prefect time to release this steam… its so tiring some days… but it is sooo rewarding. My little meatballs are my everything…

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  2. Righteous!
    I raised my kids alone. And they are dam fine kids now … and they’re having babies that will also turn out to be brilliant! Thats the role Us Mamas take on. And You have embraced the hell out of yours – and your babies will be strong and fearless because of that !! 🙂

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